When it comes to female ejaculation, the raging debates that take place over the capabilities of women’s bodies are never ending. These debates are merely semantics to women who have experienced squirting, but for those who haven’t, it can see far-fetched, a sort of sexual myth or a phenomenon that is only available to a select few. Attitudes about squirting vary wildly from one person to the next; with some people finding it incredibly sexy and others believing it’s a turn-off. Some women have been shamed by partners who have negative reactions to their soaking wet orgasms and others take expensive workshops trying to learn how to let loose and let it flow.
The differences in women’s bodies are undeniable. We are all turned on by different things and we all reach climax by different means and at varying intensities. It is my belief that all women are capable of experiencing female ejaculation, but that no one should ever feel pressured, as if one sort of orgasm is the Holy Grail and if you don’t reach it, you have somehow failed in your sexual explorations. There is enough performance pressure in the rest of life; we should be able to leave that behind when we’re having sex. In fact, since psychological inhibition is one of the main reasons that women don’t ejaculate, this sort of approach is likely to be counterproductive.
The good news is that if you’re interested in experiencing female ejaculation, you can, and you don’t need to pay for an expensive sex workshop in order to do so. Instead, all you need to invest in is a long weekend with a patient and open minded partner behind a locked door, and perhaps a sex toy geared towards G-spot stimulation, like the Key Comet G Wand. (You can read Epiphora's review on the Key Comet G Wand here)
Take ample time to relax and unwind before you get started. A hot bath, a long massage, and a glass of wine can go a long way towards chilling you out and loosening you up. Don’t skimp on foreplay, either. Just like with any other type of sex, the more turned on you are, the more likely it is that things will go the way you’re hoping. When you reach the point of penetration, have your partner locate your G-spot. This is typically about one to two inches inside the vagina, on the front wall. It is slightly different in texture that the surrounding tissue, feeling spongy at first, and firming up with increased sexual response. Your partner should start off by gently stroking the spot in a come-hither motion with two fingers, and as you feel it growing harder and your body responds, intensity can be increased.
While some women can ejaculate with fairly light stimulation, for many it requires very hard and fast motion. Tell your partner what you like and need. When you are nearing ejaculation, you may feel like you are about to pee. Instead of trying to hold back the sensation, go with it. You may gush or spray anywhere from a teaspoon to more than a cup of fluid. The process can last anywhere from a few minutes to close to an hour, so be patient. Just enjoy the sensations and don’t worry about rushing. If you don’t get it on the first try, enjoy the practice sessions until you do.