This is something that I never thought would be so popular in the media as well as blogs and even books! Being Brazilian (as my place of birth, not waxing style), waxing is something that has been part of my life since I was 13 or so. I know it sounds a bit too young, but the fact is we go to the beach and pool quite a lot, and we wear small bikinis. Waxing comes along as part of the deal. Its either that or a hairy bikini line that no one wants to show off. It is something we do for ourselves, the same way you get your hair coloured and your shellac done every two weeks. We also wax our legs, underarms and anywhere else we might think would look better without hair. The alternative to that, which is also quite popular, is to 'bleach' your body hair so it looks nice and gold. This treatment is called Moon Bath or Banho de Lua. Any combination of the above is also common.
Moon Bath (Banho de Lua)
You would imagine that a country that is synonymous of waxing would be all hairless, right? That's the surprising fact. We are not. What is called “Brazilian”, where every-single-hair is removed, isn't that popular in Brazil. Or at least it wasn't until it became a fever all over the globe (thanks porn!).
The ritual of getting your waxing done may vary from person to person, but I noticed that you usually stick to the same waxer as you would do with a hair-dresser. In my case it was Rosana, who was responsible for my waxing for almost 10 years. The most popular request (and you could get is heart-shaped, starts and pretty much every shape you can imagine) was what I'm gonna call “half-pussy” as I cannot think of a better translation. It pretty much means that from the lips down you take everything, which also includes taking any hair from you bum out of the way.
But what I think is the most interesting fact is that we (Brazilians) mostly wax because we want to do so, and we do it the way we want, be it a bikini like, a half-pussy or a full-pussy (aka Brazilian). If you wanna grow your bush, that's fine too. Our partners could have some preference, and occasionally ask for a “treat”, but I have never, ever had the pressure to wax the whole thing just because he isn't keen on a bit of hair. Nor had any of my friends (at least that I am aware of). Because our waxing is none of their business... it's like your boyfriend/husband/one-night-stand complaining about your nails or hair style. You are gonna think: WTF? Don't you have anything better to worry about?
But now we are expected to be hair-less. I'm not going into the fact you might look way younger than you should if you decide to go bare, because this is also none of my business. But it does make me wonder how the near future will be for the next generation of women. Are we sending the message to young girls that pubic hair is undesirable? Is your daughter or nice going to ask you to get a full waxing by the age of 12? The answer is no: she is going to shave it without you being aware of it, probably as soon as the first hair comes out. Isn't it weird? In my early teens (and I'm only in my late 20s, so not that long ago), having pubic hair was a sign of being a women, that your body was developing. You would look forward for it. Now its the other way around. I don't know the answer for this madness, but one thing I know: I don't like the pressure. If a guy cannot stand a bit of hair, in my opinion he isn't old enough to be having sex in the first place. Also, if guys can grow a beard for a change, as well as shave it every day, women should have the same right.
I am adept of what I call 'fair trade' : if you want me to wax, you too have to get one. I apply this rule to most things in my life, specially when it comes to relationships and it has been working very well so far. I would say its definitely worth giving it a go... you might find your partner much more mindful once he/she goes through the same as you.
How about you? What are your thoughts about it?