It’s a bit of a sticky topic, but sooner or later, you may find yourself in the market for some kind of lube. Many people believe that added lubrication is only really needed for those times you lack your own personal lubrication, but the right lube can really take good sex and ratchet it up to great sex.
So, what exactly is the right lube?
Buying your first lube can be a bit bewildering. Here’s a rundown of the kind of lubes you’ll come across, and exactly which one to choose as you embark on a new slippery slope…
For an all purpose first time lube, a silicone formulation will cost slightly more but is perfect for basically whatever you want to do with it. Safe for use with condoms, most silicone lubes are silky, thin and lovely - but you may find yourself having to scrub it off with soap as the loveliness tends to linger long after it’s needed. Also, watch out so you don't damage your beautiful 5000 threads Egyptian Cotton bedding. A towel might be a good idea to protect the sheets.
**Silicone lubricants might not be compatible with your silicone sex toy. Always do a patch test first**
Pjur Original Body Glide 100ml $21 Viamax Silicone Glide 70ml $22
Water based lubricants
If the longevity of silicone feels like too much of a commitment, you might want to try something water based. These lubes more closely resemble natural vaginal lubrication - but they also evaporate off fairly quickly. They’re great for manual use but avoid them for any activity that relies on extended friction - handjobs and anal play may work better with a silicone or creme variety. Safe for toy play. Tip: Add a drop of water once it gets dry and voila, your lube is alive again!
Viamax Water Glide 70ml
These are also water-based, but have a different texture and rest somewhere between a silicone and water based product. A little like lotion in consistency, they have the benefit of being water based yet last a bit longer - but watch out: most cream lubricants taste terrible so opt for something else for oral play. On the other hand (literally!) they can be your best friend during a hand-job.
Oil based lubricants
Crisco, coconut oil or vaseline are all fine in a pinch - provided you’re not using a condom! Oil based lubricants usually degrade latex condoms, but are amazingly sensual when you want a more luxurious, softer oil to massage the entire body with. Also great for anal play.
Your average vagina doesn’t do well with petroleum based oils like baby oil or vaseline as the effect can be drying and irritating. Likewise, turn the bottle over and scour the ingredients list for glycerin, which can also aggravate vaginal flora and cause yeast infections.
Price is a good indicator of lube quality. Ask for small sample sizes or choose a smaller bottle to start, until you get a better idea of what you like. What about novelty flavoured lubes or those that promise to warm or cool your bits when blown on or touched? These can be a lot of fun, but take it slow. Don’t discover at the last minute that you have a peppermint sensitivity, for example. Nothing ruins an intimate moment quite like screaming, bounding off to the bathroom and frantically scrubbing yourself off.
Now that you have read the quick guide but still wants to know more about lubricant, check the epic lubricant guide that Lorax of Sex wrote on her blog. We doubt you will have any questions left after reading it!